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How One Should Treat Nick Fuentes and Everyone Else Who Is Not Your Mother

By  Allan Stevo  

May 16, 2026

Nick Fuentes is a gifted speaker and thinker, a man of many ideas, and a man notably lacking that place in the personality that is developed when one has a spouse and raises children. He is a young man, with much to learn about life. At the same time, he is a young man with a specific ability to reach other young men. Some of his ideas are generally dismissed as outlandish and hateful.

Never far from any talk about Nick Fuentes, or any other effective person, is this question about whether he is "a fed." Such talk of someone being a fed has a range of possibilities that would specifically suggest that he is a federal informant or federal operative, who on one end of the spectrum avoided jail time in exchange for cooperation with law enforcement, or who on the other end of the spectrum is bred by the government, and trained up by some entity in the intelligence community.

This question of being a fed is a valuable question to ask, but it only goes so far.

You see, everyone has their weaknesses. Everyone lacks capacity in some areas. Everyone becomes worthless to follow into some battles. When you commit to think for yourself, you welcome in a different kind of process that tends to transcend whether a person is a fed.

At the same time, you and I both, have some level of "training" from the culture and from interested parties that perverts our individual way of operating in life. The free man does his best to escape that training. To ignore those weaknesses in every man is a problem.

What we are left with then is this: An idea-by-idea assessment of what a person is saying. This is the ideal territory of the thinking man: To be comfortable evaluating his surroundings one idea at a time.

What the less-excited-to-think-man is going to say is, "I'm not looking for all that work. All I want to know is if I can trust this person or not?"

The answer is no.

There are few people in this world who deserve your trust and who will not let you down when foolishly given your trust. One of the areas of "training" in our era is to trust many and to trust many cheaply. It is important to only trust a few around you, and those you trust should be those who have earned that trust. The idea that a person would ascribe trust to anyone who they do not have a day-to-day, enduring, personal, one-on-one relationship with is foolish. Such a concept of trust is a fiction of the era of mass media. The man on the screen does not deserve your trust.

Humans have the capacity to betray. Humans have the capacity to do great evil out of malice. Humans also have the capacity to screw up. This is all worth keeping in mind in interactions with every human being.

Like so many of life's questions, these questions about Nick Fuentes being a fed is more of a question of what it says about you when you even ask such a question.

Do you want to be a thinking person ? Do you want to live a free life?

If you do, you need to treat every man as having the ability to betray you, the ability to willfully act maliciously against you, and as having the ability to mess up. That's it. Each person's ideas deserve evaluation one idea at a time.

What no man deserves is for you to sit and listen seemingly endlessly absorbing every thought of his and making his ideas into your own, making yourself into a veritable clone of that person.

Being ready to evaluate an idea one at a time is how one should treat Nick Fuentes and everyone else who is not your mother.

I do not pretend to suggest that your mother is unable to betray you, act in malice against you, or to simply make a mistake. I do not mean that at all. Your mother is just as susceptible of wickedness as the next person. But there are relationships in your life that might allow for a little less rigorous idea-by-idea level of circumspection, relationships that exist for a different reason than engaging in the battle of ideas.

Most relationships do not deserve that leeway. Just because there are 3 or 4 hours of ideas being streamed by a person each day, does not make it good to witlessly listen and absorb for 3 or 4 hours each day, any more than there being a good reason to witlessly listen to 24 hours of CNN streamed live each day.

One should be cautious of significant time spent with mass media, because any lengthy period of listening to mass media has a tendency to turn into witlessly listening to mass media.

At the same time, to ignore Nick Fuentes would be a mistake. He speaks too vitally to a segment of the American population and vocalizes a real angst that exists, a level of conflict and crisis that few vocalize. Ignore Nick Fuentes and you will have ignored a sizable segment of some two, maybe three generations of men.

Ignore Nick Fuentes and you will not understand why Donald Trump is hardly the most extreme US President that will be seen in our lifetime. Either America will be culturally and spiritually defeated or a far more divisive US President will step into the Presidency. Donald Trump has shown that one man in one term is not enough. And far more likely is that thousands of far less cooperative men than Trump will likely run a coup on society in some ways akin to the coup on society that has been run since some stink foot hippie called out that there would need to be "a long march through the institutions." This long, slow call to arms was little more than an echo of the writings that came out of the Frankfort group of thinkers in the 1930s, ideas that came to thoroughly infect America and the West.

There was a lynchpin, though, that made those ideas able to take root: Does a man part from his Maker?

That is the lynchpin. That willingness to part or not part from one's Maker is the lynchpin on whether and how deeply cultural marxism can take root in America. The same is true for other cultures.

The Bible is the antidote to the woes of the world. America is well-served by some thinkers and leaders. But more than any man being needed in America, America needs Jesus.

As a man who spent years of his life lost in abject atheism, I can give you virtually every single argument over centuries that has existed to refute what I am saying. Seldom is there originality in this field. I used to deal in those ideas: from deism to aliens, from gnosticism to witchcraft, from hopelessness to pantheism, from post-modernism to pick yourself up by your own bootstraps.

The reality is that the antidote is in the Bible. If you don't know what that looks like, you probably need more Bible time and more church time and more prayer time. You probably need a heart open to the reality that there is only so far man can go on his own, and that he needs his Maker.

Which brings us to perhaps the most important thing I have to say, a thing that few people will do, because mostly people are phonies.

If you care enough to entertain the idea of whether or not Nick Fuentes is a fed, then you should care enough to pray for the man. The most important thing a person should do in response to the question, "Is Nick Fuentes a fed?" should not be to simply answer the question, or to evaluate his ideas one by one, but to take it further and to pray for the man.

The prayerful out there tend to have quite the relationship with contemplative practices. Prayer seems to never be far from that. Once you begin prayer for Nick Fuentes, you will probably not stop there, but will know that there is more that needs praying for: our land, our people, the state of men in our era, the state of marriage, the state of family, our leaders elected and unelected, governmental leaders but also all the other leaders of life, right down to the least touted areas of leadership. Things that I can not even fathom are likely to come upon your heart when you enter into that attitude of prayer.

Jesus does not insist that you pray for your mother. It would have been almost foolish to suggest such a thing in His era. Of course, you will pray for your mother. In our era it probably is less foolish to need to offer that basic training on life. Jesus was dealing with more fundamental areas of conflict: fasting, tithing, praying, these things He is clearly assuming as baseline things that we will do. But He takes it further:

Pray for those who spitefully use you.

Whether or not Nick Fuentes is a fed, you should be praying for him. Whether or not Nick Fuentes is a fed, you should be conversant on the intellectual debates that young men of our era are having in order to try making sense of the world. Whether or not Nick Fuentes is a fed, you should neither embrace him fully, nor dismiss him entirely.

Every person around you deserves similar treatment: prayer and thoughtful consideration, one idea at a time, one encounter at a time.

I know to some that sounds tiring, but the reality is, if we can commit to doing that, it saves us from living a life filled with far more tiring and less insightful conversations. Transcend the mass media era foolishness that demands you give your trust to a man you cannot know - or sometimes worse: to hate a man you cannot know. Transcend the desire to evaluate a man in his entirety, especially when that is based on things you cannot know. Mass media brings with it limitations. Your response to those limitations makes you either a savvy operator through some of the many advantages of mass media, or it makes you one who acts in a way that self-handicaps. Welcome the unfamiliar idea. Reason it through. Avoid the push to evaluate a man in his entirety. If you can do this, life becomes richer and the energy spent on evaluating a person who was largely unevaluatable to begin with, is, instead, spent on knowing things that can be known.

Your heroes are not the people you think they are.

You do wrong to blame them for that if their anti-heroic nature ever becomes clear to you. You were the one who made the mistake by demanding a hero in your life.

And so often, your villains are not the people you think they are. Again, it is often you who is to blame for demanding villains in life.

It is not with flesh and blood that we wrestle. We do ourselves and those around us a disservice when we lose touch with that important reality. And in the mass media environment, how much more true that becomes: it is not with mere glimpses of flesh and blood that we are to wrestle.

I know that it is neither easy, nor perfect, but please do your best to engage the idea, and not your necessarily flawed glimpse of the man.

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